Monday, November 23, 2009

The Sad Past and Sadder Future of Elliot Frost


On Friday, Ferdinand Bardamu posted a new essay at The Spearhead: Letter from an Omega. The letter - from a self-described "omega" named Elliot Frost - queries Ferdinand about the purpose of Game while expressing some concerns about it.

Elliot writes...

One of the things that I hate about game and the world view that comes with it, is the way it paints human beings as animals. Animals prodominantly controlled by base, primal urges that we can hardly even control. But as much as I hate it I really can’t argue with it, it just makes me hold humanity in lower esteem.

Ferdinand replies...

To a certain extent, you’re correct. The alpha/beta/omega hierarchy that is used to classify men is based solely on said man’s sexual attractiveness. You also rightly note that society at large does this as well. There’s a reason why the number one insult feminists and women use on anti-feminist writers like myself is “you can’t get laid,” just above “you have a small penis.”

I won’t lie and say that I don’t regard a man’s sexual attractiveness as an integral part of his character. One of the goals of all life is to reproduce and pass on your genes – if you don’t have the ability to do that, you have failed at existence. The fact that reproducing is much more difficult for men then for women, as judged by the fact that less then half of the former have successfully done so throughout human history, means that the ability to get with women (and by extension spread your seed) is a quality that other people respect…

All life, from protozoa to plants to puppies, is possessed of one primary goal – survival. I separate survival into two subcategories - corporeal survival and genetic survival. The former entails staying physically alive, and the latter consists of passing on your genes to the next generation; reproduction, in other words. The Mystery Method posited a similar premise, with survival and replication being the purpose of every living entity. Every living being wants to reproduce, and will do anything in its power to accomplish that goal. This includes human beings…

While I wouldn’t argue that we humans, being sapient, are identical to chimpanzees rutting in the trees, our sentience is a tower constructed on a foundation of animal drives and instincts. The low, base urges may not be out in the open, but they’re still there and are still holding up everything else. We cannot escape our nature, we can only work with it.

In the Comment Thread, I wrote in response...

This is an honest, articulate description of Game (and no, I’m not being sarcastic). But here’s the problem: By explaining some of the “inherent assumptions” of Game you reveals its flaws.

For example, you write (quite casually and confidently): “Every living being wants to reproduce, and will do anything in its power to accomplish that goal.”


Really? Read that sentence again. EVERY LIVING BEING will do ANYTHING IN ITS power to REPRODUCE.


Does that really describe yourself, Ferdinand? Does that describe anyone in this forum? It certainly doesn’t describe Elliott who describes several goals for his life – but never mentions reproduction as one of them.

Elliot is correct that the “worldview” of Game “paints human beings as animals.” And therein lies its fatal flaw.

Once you understand the truth that human beings are not mindless meat puppets manipulated by our selfish genes to survive and reproduce the appeal of Game dwindles to zero.

Game may – on some level – help a man get sex, but by harming his soul, it will ultimately lower – not bolster – his happiness.

I guess my arguments (and those of other people like "Jon," "Codebuster," and "Porkchop") didn't have much influence on Elliot. Near the end of the comment thread, he wrote...

I have no doubt that the explanations for male/female behavior game provides are true. I do hate it, believe me… My goal in trying to understand/study game is that I may rid myself, permanently, of all these wretched lies about women (which women encourage!) and cease being an emotional slave. If game can help me and other omegas achieve those humble outcomes, than game is worth its hype.

I wrote in response...
In my experience, the best way to stop being an “emotional slave” is to sever the knee-jerk response whereby a woman’s indifference to you causes “emotional slavery.” To do that, you must take ownership of your life, love yourself, and achieve a level of character that a worthy woman would be overjoyed to love.

There are no short-cuts in life. You have to do your homework. Life is a perpetual school, and unfortunately – to use Dave’s analogy – Game is a pill; a drug that may boost your self-esteem in the short-run but will leave you with a hangover tomorrow. And then – when the hangover passes – you’ll be back at Square One.

So why is Elliot going to fall for all this nonsense?

Advocatus Diaboli has the answer. He wrote...

Evolutionary psychology is a BS religion, not unlike randism and scientology. It tells the true believers that they are righteous and deserving.

If you feel that people are treating you poorly and there is no chance they will change, hurt them as you please.

I responded...

That’s a good point, Advocatus. I’ve long believed that the quest to feel superior to the great mass of humanity is a very common and dangerous drug that can come in many forms. “Game” (as practiced by the Roissysphere) is one of those forms.

Good luck to you, Elliot. You deserve more than you'll ever know.

2 comments:

Justin said...

Poor guy. Thanks for trying. People have accused me of being anti-Game for a host of ideological and personal-deficiency reasons, but the central reason, they never seem to address: it is bad for men. Profoundly bad, on the physical and emotional levels, and I would argue, the spiritual as well.

Todd White said...

Yeah, that's my central reason too. Of course, the Gamers - as either atheists or atheist-leaning agnostics - deny the existence of sprituality. And they probably view any emotion (with the exception of gorilla-like emotions like anger or jealousy) as feminine or "Beta" and thus, unworthy of a true Gamer.